That... ain't what happens where I'm from.

[At least, that isn't what she's been taught will happen.]

You don't lose your identity, you just pass on to the Dark Fields, or whatever resting place your god has set aside. It's places of peace where you'll be closer to the one you're dedicated to. Or... for folk who ain't got gods, it's just a forever sleep where your soul lays down and rests.